Hi there! I’m Cadence, Mary and Jason’s sixteen year-old daughter. You might recognize me as the girl in the office during a training session, or loitering in the cafe during meetings; especially recently with me coming to work full time for Arcade. One of Mary and Jason’s main claims to fame is that they actually practice what they preach. I mean, where are your morals more evident than in your parenting skills? This is a new section that will be popping up now and again, explaining just how what Arcade teaches can be brought into your work life, as well as into your personal life.
My parents like to say that “we don’t grow up, we just get bigger”. I think that this is one of the reasons that they raised me with such high expectations. (Not like unbearably high. Just high enough to make me learn how to ocean swim for myself.) If you raise your child with a proper set of morals and an honest point of view, they will retain that into their adulthood and use it in their day to day life. I like to believe that I’m living proof of that. One of the prominent things that my parents raised me with, were the three rules.
Number one: Own it.
Take responsibility and ownership of your actions. If you ate the cookies, just step up and say you did. This is one of the things that has honestly taken me the farthest in my life. Owning it doesn’t mean that you won’t suffer consequences from your actions, but it does mean that you’re a step towards the light side. We all make mistakes in life, and if we keep them all bottled up inside of ourselves and hidden, then we can’t learn from them. This is possibly the hardest step in the process, but we don’t learn in our comfort zone. We need to be pushed in order to properly develop into functional people. How else do we learn and grow, without honestly owning up to our mistakes?
Number two: Say you’re sorry and that you’ll never do it again.
Another thing you’ll hear my parents say all the time is that we aren’t remembered for our accomplishments unless we’re Bill Gates or Elon Musk. The thing we’re remembered for, is our relationships. This is the part that helps develop those relationships even further. We can’t build seriously meaningful relationships without righting our wrongs, and apologizing for what we’ve done. Believe me when I say that a serious mess-up that you fix because you care about the person can be one of the most bonding experiences two people can go through. The important thing to be aware of with rule number 2 is that your apology needs to be 100% real and genuine. It needs to be out of real concern and understanding of what you’ve done wrong. If you apologize for the purpose of preserving your ego, or reputation, you’ll dig yourself further into the hole you’re in. Believe it or not, people know when you’re being fake. DO NOT APOLOGIZE UNLESS YOU MEAN IT.
Number three: Never do it again.
This is all about determination and follow through. It doesn’t matter how badly you want to eat the cookies, you promised you wouldn’t. If you fail at this step, you’ve broken your promise. You’ve let the person down. If you fail in this step, you do the most significant damage to your relationships.
The three rules have been an integral part of how I build my relationships, both in the workplace, and in my personal life. Mistakes and screw-ups are going to happen, and it’s important that we know how to properly deal with that and move on with our lives.
This has been your somewhat-regularly posted Growing up Arcade post! I look forward to writing another one of these about whatever topic presents itself as appropriate for the blog! Peace out.